Christmastime is wonderful! Everyone is walking around humming carols and buying things they can’t afford, what a special time! The other thing that seems to come out in droves in this season is lovers! They’re everywhere, strolling hand in hand, shopping for presents and just being in love. This is a very popular season for getting engaged or married under the twinkling lights, how romantic! It really is enough to make a single person want to jump off a bridge - and it’s not like there isn’t enough Christmas movies to put that in someone’s head (thanks a lot Jimmy Stewart, it’s not such a Wonderful Life!)I dedicate today’s blog to all those loners out there this year at Christmas time. One of my best friends called this morning bemoaning the life of the single woman. As she’s talking about all her woes I am thinking to myself, “Man, that doesn’t sound that bad!” She just got back from a cruise where she was flirted with by Peruvian waiters all week; She is the best dressed girl I know (no children sucking up all her money) and she has a great future as a teacher. Look I’m not saying it’s not hard to be single in a world of couples but I am saying that if you don’t know how to enjoy your life single, marriage definitely isn’t going to improve that equation. Trust me! :)
Enjoy your life! My life got a million times better when I stopped waiting for some event to happen that was supposed to be the magic bullet of happiness. Don’t get stuck in that trap of “well, when I get married I will be happy, or when I have kids, get a better job, have more money, live in a bigger house...” and on and on it goes. True happiness comes from within and it isn’t dependent on temporary circumstances. and trust me everything is temporary. If there is something that you can change about your life, if it’s in your control to fix, then do it! But if not, then just decide to have fun, to make the most out of life, after all you only get one!
So, listen up all you single ladies (and guys)! Go have some fun this year! Gather up all your single friends and go on a spontaneous trip, have a party, or go caroling, do something! You probably won’t always be single so you might as well enjoy the freedom while you have it! and if your tired of the “table for one“ life then do something about it! Get yourself out there, there are tons of ways to meet quality people in this day and age. (NOT at a bar! If they only like you when they’re drunk that could be a problem (and expensive). Make friends with some couples, they will have you married before next Christmas, because couples can’t stand to see anyone not married! That’s because it’s so great! (Or it’s because misery loves company? The answer we may never know...)
Bottom line is that life isn’t about what’s happening to you but what‘s happening in you, whether you know it or not these experiences can allow you to grow, learn and become the you that you always dreamed of being!
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