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What do YOU wear to the office?

Posted by Wendy Anguiano on Tuesday, 03 January 2012 in Jane.TV Blog

What are YOUR key business attire pieces?

In the corporate world, your look should be sleek, simple, polished & stylish. To pull that off your closet should contain a few key pieces in neutral tones that can be mixed & matched with each other to provide you with limitless options. When you add in a pop of color or a flourish (nothing over the top), this creates style.

Stear clear of prints, showing too much skin, and too much jewelry if you want to be taken seriously!
As a Fashion Stylist, I believe there is a certain place to wear certain pieces. It isn't appropriate to wear your "GNO" (girls night out) attire to work, unless of course you work in an environment where is would be acceptable, such as in a fashion boutique. Typically in the corporate world, this attire would be considered inappropriate and you wouldn't be taken seriously. If you want to succeed in any job, it is important the focus remains on YOU as a person and not your body!

Wake Up Call ^Featured

Posted by Jackie Dorman on Tuesday, 27 December 2011 in Jane.TV Blog

I was greeted this morning by the most annoying and painful sound. My husband got a new alarm clock and iPhone dock for Christmas and decided to lovingly set it for me. I don’t know what he set the sound to, but I think it was the “Foghorn Leghorn” setting. Needless to say, it was a rude awakening. I tried to find the off button, which I did by pushing every button on the top of the thing, that’s what I like to call the “woman method”. This method also includes shaking things to get them to turn on and beating on the side of them to get them to work properly. I would love to be an IT tech at a company, every time someone calls about a problem with their computer I would just go down and smack the side of it a few times, smile, and say, “Always works for me.” LOL

But back to my painful awakening, it was amplified by the fact that I had stayed up the night before until 2 am, and the previous two nights until midnight. I became aware in that loud moment that I really needed to get to bed earlier. It made me start thinking about the purpose of pain in our lives, I know pain seems like a bad thing but it really is just a wake up call (albeit a hard one) that tells us that something needs to change in our lives.

I have been looking at pain differently for quite awhile now because I realized that every time I started experiencing pain in a certain area of life, like a relationship or with my physical health, it was happening because I really needed to make a change in the way I was doing things. It’s easy to think of these things in a negative way but I encourage you to remember that there isn’t any lose, only win or learn!

Think of pain like an annoying alarm clock or the service engine light on your car. It’s there to show you that something is not right and you need to start focusing on this area and see what needs to be done differently. I remember watching a show on TV about a little girl with a nervous system defect that caused her to not be able to feel pain. Her parents couldn’t let her do the simplest thing like brush her teeth because if she applied to much pressure she wouldn’t know it until the blood began to flow. There was no pain to warn her that she wasn’t doing it the right way, and if she didn’t stop it might cause permanent damage.

Pain is your friend, it’s a caution sign that you are headed for trouble unless you change your direction. Take a few minutes to think about an area of your life where you have been having some pain, maybe it’s in your marriage, perhaps there has been a lot of fighting and resentment. Now ask yourself what needs to change, and don’t just say him or her! Ha ha! But really seek truth, what can YOU do differently to make it work better. A lot of times pain in relationships is caused by neglect. It could be as easy as spending some more quality time together that doesn’t involve talking about the kids or the bills. Just time together doing something that you both enjoy. If you have nothing in common then find something, there has to be at least one thing!

Don’t ignore pain in any area of your life but seek to understand what changes need to be made. I have heard story after story of people who ignored pain in their lives for years when a few changes could have completely altered the outcome of their situation. The truth is that the pain associated with making changes is only temporary, but the pain of never changing lasts forever.

It’s time to wake up and start living your Real Life!

Live Out Loud! ^Featured

Posted by Jackie Dorman on Tuesday, 29 November 2011 in Jane.TV Blog

Nationwide Insurance wasn’t kidding, life really does come at you fast. It could be much worse; at least I didn’t go to sleep and wake up as a card carrying member of the AARP with a condo in Florida and a plastic hip. For now time is still on my side but for how long...life is so unpredictable and I spend far too much time on the things that in the final equation don’t really measure up to very much.

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Avoid Falling Into Someone Else’s Rabbit Hole ^Featured

Posted by Kimberly Heuser on Saturday, 26 November 2011 in Jane.TV Blog

Alice never thought that going down the rabbit hole would lead to the chaos that followed but it was oh so predictable. A bored girl sees a rabbit claiming to go somewhere exciting which leads her down the rabbit hole into chaos that made her cry. After much confusion and disillusionment, she winds up in front of a caterpillar who is all to eager to tell her she was having an identity crisis. How many times have you been lead down someone else's rabbit hole into an identity crisis?

The danger of falling into someone else’s rabbit hole was a lesson I had to learn the hard way too many times in my life. It wasn’t until I was talking to a friend, who was distraught over another failed relationship, that I realized the root of why women find themselves in those dark unfamiliar places. I was struggling to find the right words to comfort my heartbroken friend. You see pain over a lost loved one cannot be healed with words but by decision, decision to see yourself whole without the other. Will the pain ever go away? Yes, but not immediately, you still have the memories of how that person made you feel, but you’ll at least be able to see yourself capable of having a fulfilling life without the lost love. However, there is a way to prevent the most devastating parts of a break up; who am I without him, how will I ever find happiness if they aren’t with me, and what now?

The problem is most women don’t truly know what they want out of life and where they are heading. Looking back at the distant past, I know that all of the stray rabbit holes I found myself in were a result of 'losing self' and wanting what appeared to be more exciting because just like Alice, I was bored and without purpose at the time. The problem is, if you don’t know where you are heading somebody else’s path might seem easier to follow, but just like Alice, it only leads to tears and confusion.

This is all too evident in relationships of young love. Women have a tendency to get enveloped by men. How many friends have you lost to men that really weren’t the best fit for them? Humanity was built for relationships, and women have it embedded in them to find a man to provide for and protect them. Unfortunately, what many women fail to realize is that they are created with purpose, and that it is absolutely necessary to define who they are and what their purpose is in life first. After that, it’ll become evident the type of person who is best suited to travel down that path with you. It doesn’t matter what your path is, what matters is that you find it. If you don't, then every stray rabbit claiming to go somewhere exciting will only lead you down a path that you were never intended to travel. When you find yourself down someone else’s rabbit hole you lose yourself and what truly makes you happy. After a while you'll claim the life of the rabbit you followed, which will only leave you feeling empty and unfulfilled.

Unfortunately, as the saying goes, "The grass may seem greener on the other side, but it’s only because it’s on top of a septic system." Once in the hole you'll find yourself in a life that you never wanted with a person that doesn’t fit YOU. Eventually you start to see all the dirty little things that lie beneath the allure that once lead you astray, it’s inevitable. If you are not living your life for you, you will take on somebody else’s life which will only lead to confusion and devastation once you realize it’s time to move on.

I encourage you to find yourself, sit down with a pen and paper and write out your perfect life then focus on creating the life you want. Get passionate and start to live an exciting life, that way when those loser rabbits come along, you’re too busy to be led astray and have no reason to follow. The best part of it all, once you are traveling down your own path you will find a man that is better suited for you. They most likely will be traveling down the same path as you, which could lead to a fulfilling relationship. A relationship where you can have the best of both worlds... your path in life and someone to travel it with you.